Keep a loose-leaf notebook & pen by your bedside. After you wake, record your dreams in as much details as you can. Write every little thing you remember, even if it does not make sense or seem important. Include the feelings you experienced during the dream & those that lingered upon waking. When you have finished writing, be aware of recurrent themes, patterns, symbolic images & signs. Do this for one week. You may want to discuss what you recorded with a dream partner or counselor. Watch & learn. Did anything previously hidden become clear you?
As you heal your life, your internal chemistry changes & your body benefits.
Find the harmony & rhythm that are authentic for you, instead of accepting the ones imposed by others. Do not be afraid to imagine your ideal self; your body has the potential to create whatever you visualize. And when your health is not the issue, see how love can heal your life & cure your disease.
If you elect to go on a healing journey, the key point to consider is: what labour pains are you willing to go through to rebirth yourself & make the pain worthwhile?
You don't have to make life happen. In fact, you can't. Relax. Let go. And let it happen. It is already planned.
"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back-- Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth that ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents and meetings and material assistance, which no man could have dreamed would have come his way. Whatever you can do, or dream you can do, begin it. Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Begin it now."
Life is best lived by being bold and daring. People tend to grow fearful when they taste failure, face a daunting challenge or fall ill. Yet this is precisely the time to become even bolder. Those who are victors at heart are the greatest of all champions.
One day you finally knew
what you had to do, and began,
though the voices around you
their bad advice – – –
though the whole house
began to tremble
and you felt the old tug
at your ankles.
‘Mend my life!’
each voice cried.
But you didn’t stop.
You knew what you had to do,
though the wind pried
with its stiff fingers
at the very foundations – – –
though their melancholy
was terrible. It was already late
enough, and a wild night,
and the road full of fallen
branches and stones.
But little by little,
as you left their voices behind,
the stars began to burn
through the sheets of clouds,
and there was a new voice,
which you slowly
recognized as your own,
that kept you company
as you strode deeper and deeper
into the world,
determined to do
the only thing you could do – – – determined to save
the only life you could save.
BY MARY OLIVER
Thank you Mary Oliver!
If truth is relative to what you believe, then happiness is directly correlated to what you pursue.
Everyone is in search of how to live a happy life--when in reality, the search begins with you. Happiness is not "found." It is realized.
It is already right here.
(For all of you rolling your eyes, read the above sentence again and take a big deep breath as you read it.)
1. Stay true to yourself.So much unhappiness stems from making decisions that go against what you know in your core, your gut, to be right. Deep down, you don't want to do it--but you do it anyway. You listen to your head. You try to convince yourself the raise is worth it, or the risk is too great, or it's better to just stay put, to keep your head down.
Staying true to yourself is a challenge, yes. But effectively suppressing your true self is even more challenging.
2. Do what you love--not what you're told to love.To spend time (especially a considerable amount of time) doing what you love takes work. Hard work. And the truth is, most people give up. They get a job to pay the bills and do what they love "on the side." Eventually, they lose motivation, fall into the comfort of routine, and give up the very thing they once valued the most. And for years, then, they look back in regret, almost basking in the statement, "I wish I could have...".
It might take a while for you to realize it, but at some point you will. You will feel an immense sense of loss for not having stuck with the thing that once brought you true joy. Even if you never make it your career. Even if you only do it for yourself, still, do it. The fact that "doing something for yourself" is seen as a waste of time and energy is testament enough to our achievement-based society.
3. Create the environment that's right for you.If you are an extrovert, don't allow yourself to work a job that suppresses that part of you. If you are an introvert, don't try to contort yourself to an extroverted company culture. Your own happiness is a reflection of your day-to-day, the things you're doing, and most important, how you are doing them.
Create your own environment. Put yourself in a place that will help you grow, not suppress your growth. Surround yourself with people who understand, or at least make the effort to understand you. There are always options. Do not settle for someplace that does not feed your core.
4. Choose your friends wisely.You are a reflection of the five people you spend the most time with--choose them wisely. If they complain a lot, you will inevitably complain a lot. If they are lazy, you will become lazy. If they are not actively improving themselves, you will not actively improve yourself--unless you leave the situation and find others who will reflect that part of you.
It is very difficult to remain in a state of happiness when you are surrounded by negativity.
5. Develop positive habits.We as humans like to believe "happiness" is the destination wherein there is no more challenge. Everything is easy.
In fact, it is quite the opposite. We love challenge. We thrive off challenge. We grow through challenge. We discover ourselves by being challenged. And it is not the thing itself, but your emotional state that decides whether or not that process of growing and being challenged is enjoyable, in the same way a workout can be enjoyable or grueling and painful (in the same way a workout to someone out of shape can be grueling and painful).
The simple act of developing positive habits in itself brings a deeply "earned" happiness. We are happy because we have overcome ourselves.
6. Create certainty and leave room for uncertainty.If everything in your life is planned out, then it's boring. If nothing in your life is planned out, then it's risky and uneasy.
Happiness is found somewhere in the middle. You want just enough certainty in your life to feel like you have ground to stand on, you're not completely in danger, but you've left the window open for spontaneity to sneak in for a sleepover every now and then.
It's the spontaneous adventures that bring extreme moments of joy. But they are best enjoyed when you know you have something safe to land on as well.
7. Be vulnerable.Frightening, but there is an unrivaled happiness that comes through acts of vulnerability. These moments confirm we are human. That we are imperfect. We open ourselves and, as if looking in the mirror for the first time, are able to step back and see who we are a bit more clearly--for better or worse. We accept ourselves, and let others do the same.
Vulnerability is the secret. We as a society go to great lengths to hide who we are, and create masks, personas, and images to portray the parts we know will receive approval--while banishing the rest to the shadows. But all our best work comes from being vulnerable. All our happiest moments and saddest realizations come from being vulnerable. All our deepest loves and greatest friendships come from being vulnerable. All our art, all our music, all our creativity comes from being vulnerable.
Vulnerability is the secret to happiness--and that is why I started this article with the breath. Happiness is not out there somewhere, waiting for you. Happiness is hidden within vulnerability, and vulnerability is hidden within you.
Over the past 4 years when I was fumbling to find my way out to a better & happier life for myself & my sons, I kept telling myself to keep my eye on the light at the end of the tunnel. Mind you, there were many "tunnels & lights at the end of those tunnels" as circumstances unfolded & new twists & turns opened to be unveiled in our lives. I had visions of a better life for all 3 of us. I knew theses were NOT dreams .... but visions. Here I am today with my sons Kyle & Shane, and our pets. Blessed. Peace. LOVE.
I read this meditation on visions & would like to share it with all of you:
"Visions are different from dreams. A vision is a picture that comes from the soul and comes out through the heart.
A vision is a small glimpse of light that shines and shows us our path. It is a quick flash of something that hasn't happened yet. It may tell us something about today or 10 years from now.
Visions occur when our souls look at the map for our lives, get a sense of where we're going, and tell our hearts how to find that place. The more conscious and clear and direct we are, the more w can tune into and help create the highest vision for our lives.
What do you want? What would feel right? What do you see yourself doing? Be clear and concise, then let it go. Sometimes when we run out of dreams , we have to rely on our visions, these small glimpses of light, to lad the way. Learn to see the visions in your heart. Learn to trust them. Learn to help create them. Allow them to manifest themselves.
When the path is dark, learn to be comfortable with these small burst of light. - Let your visions guide you home." - M. Beattie